I’m angry – period. I am tired of people telling me that I need to “get over it” because Luc is baby boy’s biological father. In that vein, I guess rape victims should just “get over it” too? People who have been physically abused should just “get over it”? If Luc had jumped out of the bushes and raped me or punched me in the face every single day I had contact with him, would he STILL be allowed to have the same parental rights? I endured psychological abuse on a daily basis from Luc for over a year. In addition, the man completely lied and deceived me.
My son was the product of a lie – a con. I consented to have sex with a man who doesn’t exist and who never existed. Is this a form of rape? If I didn’t consent to have sex with THIS man, is this rape? While I was not dragged behind a bush and raped in the typically accepted sense, I certainly feel raped. He raped my soul and the court is endorsing him and allowing him to continue to rape me and now my baby boy.
So why do I bring this up? Well, the courts don’t recognize this form of rape. The judge in my court case had no words for me other than, “you CHOSE to have a child with this man, so you will have to deal with him for the next 18 years.” Would the judge tell a woman who has had a child from a rape that she has to “deal with” the rapist because she got raped by him?
According to Wikipedia, there are several types of rape. The one that applies here is “Rape by deception” which holds the following definition: Rape by deception occurs when the perpetrator gains the victim’s consent through fraud.
I feel like I have been stabbed outside of a police station. Instead of arresting Luc for stabbing me, the police have arrested me for bleeding on Luc’s shoes.