Each day, I think about the things I could have done to prevent my son from dying. Regardless of how many people tell me the absurdity of this exercise, it is something that every parent who has lost a child (especially in this way) will do. While I am smart enough to realize how my hands were tied in many ways, I still wish I had been strong enough to run away (essentially breaking the law) in order to save my baby boy from the fate he suffered while he was with his father.
Several people had a hand in delivering Prince to Luc. I have spoken about many of them here on my blog. What I find interesting is how many of those people have not been strong enough to admit their mistakes. Beyond not admitting, they have not taken the steps to identify how they could avoid this sort of disaster in the future. Most of them are too busy denying that they had any part in what happened to Prince.
I have heard from several Judge Algeo supporters over the past few months. They have commented on the Washington Post article and one of them has even infiltrated my Facebook page. Instead of sending their condolences, these people feel compelled to talk about Judge Algeo’s honor and about how he is a family man. While I cannot make a comment on how he is to his own family (I would assume he would care about his own family), I do believe I am entitled to comment on how fit he is to be presiding over Family Court.
Additionally, I would like to comment about “honor”. To me, the most honorable type of person is someone who can admit their mistakes and allow these mistakes to improve them. While Judge Algeo posed as a man trying to do what was best for Prince, he ended up bending over backward to accommodate Luc. Luc sat on the stand and cried on cue playing the judge like a piano. While Judge Algeo called Luc’s criminal behavior smoke and clouds, the dramatics and continuous perjury committed by Luc clearly clouded Judge Algeo’s vision.
Even after what has happened to Prince, Judge Algeo has been “unable to comment”. His spokesperson has said that he is barred by the judicial code of conduct from speaking about active cases in which he may need to rule in the future. Even though I know Judge Algeo is aware of Prince’s passing, it is baffling that he still considers this case “active”. What will you be ruling on Judge Algeo? Should I plan to roll out the red carpet for Luc to have visitation at the grave site? Should I be forced to now invite Luc to Christmas dinner in Prince’s memory? After all that has happened here, it certainly wouldn’t surprise me if this were the sort of thing Judge Algeo had in mind when he believed the case was still “active”.
At what point will our society realize that not everyone should be a parent. That’s right – I said it. Being a parent should be seen as a privilege and not a right. If your behavior is dangerous to the degree that people keep dropping dead around you, the court should be able to take away your parental rights. If you insist on not getting a real job and instead living off of the people you have conned, you have no business being around a child. If you have been arrested repetitively for violent crimes (even if you are able to weasel your way out), this should cause the court to wonder if you are truly innocent. Parents should be forced to be on their best behavior and prove that they can be safe role models to their children.
Being a judge in family court is not an easy job. The emotions run high, but the stakes are even higher. In order to address these difficult societal issues, we deserve a Judge who is up for the challenge. If you work at McDonalds and hate your job, you might ruin someone’s lunch. If you work in Family Court and hate your job, you could ruin an innocent child’s life. What happened to my son was a terrible tragedy which none of us will ever be able to rectify. My son will never get to do the things that Judge Algeo’s children have done. He will never again laugh, dance, or say “Mama”. He will never learn to read and he will never have his first day of kindergarten.
Though my son didn’t survive our broken system, we now have an opportunity to make sure we learn from the mistakes that Prince did not survive. What I worry about, though, is that the egos of these public servants will get in the way of progress. If these people cannot get out of the way of their dangerous egos, more children will die. I was not the first mother to lose her child, but I want to be the last. I want this madness to stop here because I can’t bear the thought of my son’s death being for naught.